Women And The Concept Of Sexual Objectification by Ibiene Bato Martha Williams

To Objectify means to treat as a mere object and to deny the dignity of (sth or sb).

Now, sexual objectification should mean to treat someone as a mere object of sex and deny them of their dignity while they are at it (sex).

Why am I delving into this topic some may ask. It's just simple.... I'm tired of women's double standards and sheer hypocrisy when the issue of sex is called in.

I stumbled on a post about a lady who raised a drama because a man took her out for lunch and after which he asked her if she feels they should have sex. To her, he was rude to her and to another lady, the man just objectified her.

From my sane stance, I saw no rudeness in it nor did I see any objectification in it. All I saw was just a man who felt he was dealing with an adult and asked politely.

No Ma! He didn't flirt with her, nor did he make flirtatious remarks about her hips and waist and maybe started checking her out like a randy fellow would do - he just asked her if it's okay for them to have sex. The expected reply should be any of these
can we do a rain check on that?
I don't think we have to rush into that stage yet
no, I don't want to have a sexual relationship with you

These are answers a mature and sane person, male or female should offer at the proposal of sex.

The truth is that most women just feel they are doing a man a huge favor by obliging them sex. Reason we have women who have nothing to bring to the table but sex.

Another truth is that most women just love it when men have to lie to them just to lay them. And when it's done, and the man walks away, after all he's gotten the cookie, the lady says he was lied to and betrayed.

Most women today just don't like it when a man is straight forward on the issue of sex. We want to be told it's about love and not about sex - we lie to ourselves - and later blame it on the man.

It is good to have some form of romance and all that with a man - I understand it's easier for a lady to accept a man she's burned feelings for, I'm one of such women too.
But in a situation where the man didn't go through all those processes, drop your beautiful decline and move on - drama isn't called for.

Truth is there are some women who would have jumped at it - you're not that woman and that's a very gracious stance too.

If the truth be told, majority of women today are the ones sexually objectifying themselves.

It's going to be a hard pill to swallow, but we must chew it now.

When all you bring to the table is your cute behind, breast and veejay, you've just told the man - hey Bro, here am I your willing sex machine.

When you expose that part of your body that is capable of arousing a man's sexual urge, you're sexually objectifying yourself. You're just sex on display waiting to be taken by the highest bidder.

When you believe because you're a woman and you're at an advantage over a man because you know men will give anything just to have the cookie, then you abuse roles, sweety, you've just objectified yourself.

You know that thing that makes you expose your cleavage just so you get male eyes rolling at the sight, it's you objectifying yourself.

I could go on and on to show you instances where you make less of your sexual dignity.

Grateful be informed there are women who will only date a man because his joystick delivers high performance and great pleaure, what do we call that? Sexual Objectification! But who is speaking about that? Nobody! Why? He's a man and enjoys sex more than women, lmao. My friend will call it hypo-crazy!

Some women sleep with their friend's men just to have a taste of his instrument, that's you objectifying that man. He isn't even aware of your motives. But you call yourself smart, I have a different term for you.

Women ask men for sex and they feel it's cool and classy . Why can't we let men feel it's cool and classy when they ask us for sex too? Double Standards - something I despise so much!

It's time we started cleaning house and face reality. We should accept the fact that the subject of sex will come up between two adults of opposite sex. If you're not comfortable with sex topic from an opposite sex, just make your stance known from the onset and save yourself and the other person the stress.
We have a lot of issues to deal with, and you being asked for sex by a man isn't anywhere an issue to be deliberated upon.