Basic facts on rendering help

                                             
Sometimes our friends may be going through a difficult time and we may have little idea or no idea on how to ease their pain.

It's easy to feel hurt when you are abandoned by a friend, because you felt they never asked how they could help your situation.

Some friends may stay away not because they want to but it could be that they really didn't know the right help to offer and decided to leave the picture so you can work out your problems the best way possible.

Here are some things you can do for a friend in need:

1. Think carefully about what you can do, don't offer help you cannot give wholeheartedly

2. Offer to help having in mind they may decline. If they do, there's no need to force them.

3. Be precise with the offer what you willing to render as help

4. Don't forget that little, thoughtful gestures will be remembered for a long time.

5. Be the one your friend can trust wholeheartedly

6. Do jump into conclusions on their problems. Let them take decisions themselves, unless you are asked for an opinion then don't offer. Seek appropriate help immediately if your friend is contemplating or attempting suicide.

7. Show them there is more to life and the problems they are passing through is just a phase.

8. Be more of a listener than a talker.