5 common phrases that should never be used by parents on their children

As a parent, your patience is constantly tested sometimes by your kids but there are some words you should never tell them - doesn't matter how frustrated you are.

Parents often have an impact on their children, most parents picked up values instilled in them by their parents and will pass it on their kids, the it goes on that way. Some of these words you utter as a parent are bound to hurt your kids and could damage them emotionally, physically or mentally.

Tor Constantino of The Good Men Project lists common phrases parents often tell their kids but should be stopped:

    "Because I Said So...": Every parent has said this at least once. This is typically used in response to a child or teenager's request to do something that the parent disagrees with. It's an illogical, non-reasoned response that's most frequently shouted at children out of frustration. This domineering phrase reinforces the weakness of the child and a sense that their opinion doesn't matter.

    "Do As I Say, Not As I Do...": This is another popular phrase barked at children. The problem here is the gross hypocrisy it represents. While there are obviously legal adult activities that parents don't want their children engaging in (e.g. smoking, drinking alcohol, watching adult-rated movies … etc.) this phrase is used with much greater frequency on a wider range of issues. Hypocrisy ultimately undermines trust—and that's one of the most important things kids need is the ability to trust their parents.

    "Stay Inside The Lines...": While this particular phrase is not likely to irreparably damage a child's psyche, it can definitely hurt and impede their creativity and problem solving. I used to love coloring in coloring books as a kid and was admonished to stay inside the lines—but rarely did. Now when I color with my own kids we have "crazy creativity contests" to see who can color their picture the wildest way possible. I like to think that this simple activity is helping my kids in a small, subtle way see beyond barriers and think outside the box.

    "It's Like I'm Talking To A Brick Wall With You...": This is perhaps the one that causes the most emotional pain in kids—I know it did in me. The reason is that whenever my mom said it, I immediately thought of the phrase "Dumb as a brick"—so she was calling me a solid wall of dumbness, or at least that's how I interpreted it. I didn't think I was dumb, but I always thought she did when she said this to me. If you're a sensitive child those types of words can hurt, especially when coming from a parent.

    "If You Don't Stop Crying, I'll Give You Something To Cry About...": This is by far the most threatening, aggressive, and fear-invoking phrase of those listed here. Parents need to recognize that when our children are crying there's a reason and it's an acceptable form of expression. This phrase misleads your child to believe that whatever is making them cry is not valid and their feelings don't matter. Whether that's intended or not, that's the only way to interpret it for a young child. Even if the child is out of control, throwing a drop-down-floor-screaming-kicking tantrum, parents can't escalate the situation via threats and violence to their kids. Somebody has to be the grown-up and that doesn't mean being the intimidating muscle. Growing up I heard each of these phrases by my parents—regrettably, I’ve repeated some of them to my own kids.