5 common myths debunked

There are a lot of preconceived notions about the concept of marriage.

However, there are many false ones including the five below.

    Life is easy after the wedding- A lot of people say and think that people can relax once they are married. This is completely false. A successful marriage takes a lot of work so, you have to show up everyday willing do your very best effort and be sure to always look for ways to do things better. Marriage consultant and coach Lesli Doares, author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage, says, "continuing to take care of yourself so your partner continues to be attracted to you, making sure you still 'date' and thinking about how your actions impact your partner and relationship are all the things that need to keep happening throughout the years."
    Sex is boring- This is another popular misconception about marriages. Yes, sex can become very boring if you let yourselves get stuck in a rut, however, this can be worked on. Sex in your marriage can be whatever you want it to be. In fact, studies have shown that married people not only have more sex, but also better sex than singles.
    It is all about the children- Children are definitely an important component of a marriage and they require a lot from the parents, however, marriage is ultimately about the man and the women. Lesli says, "children do better when they come from intact, two-parent households. Yes, they'll soak up all the time and attention you'll allow them to because they're unaware of the lasting costs. However, in the long run, the best gift you can give them is to take really good care of your marriage."
    Your partner exists to make you happy- This is another totally false notion about marriage and relationships in general. Your happiness should come from you and you alone, no one should have to bear that burden or job. Lesli reveals, "although, you can have a happily ever after marriage, your own contentment is ultimately a do-it-yourself project."
    You should keep your dirty laundry to yourselves- Many people say marriages work better when both partners keep their dirty laundry to themselves, in fact, there are a lot of arguments about how much you should reveal. However, you have to be willing to share with your partner in order for your marriage to grow.

Ladies and gentlemen, please disregard these misconceptions about marriages, do not let them keep you from getting married and your union will last.